What are the most common types of grief?
There are many, I will try to outline the ones I see most often.
- Normal grief: This is the most common type of grief and is characterised by a range of emotions: sadness; loneliness; anger or guilt. It is usually occurs after the death of a loved one (including a pet), but can also be experienced after other losses, such as the end of a relationship or the loss of a job.
- Anticipatory grief: This can be very difficult to cope with. This type of grief occurs when you know someone is dying from a terminal illness or severe mental problem. It can be just as difficult as normal grief and may even be more difficult because you have to come to terms with the loss before it happens.
- Complicated grief: This type of grief is severe and lasts longer than normal grief. It may be seen as intense anxiety, anger, or guilt. If you have complicated grief, you may have difficulty functioning in your daily life and may need grief counselling.
- Disenfranchised grief: This type of grief occurs when the loss is not socially acknowledged or supported. This can happen in cases of miscarriage, stillbirth, suicide, or the death of a much-loved pet. As a result, you may feel isolated and alone in your grief.
- Traumatic grief: This often occurs after a sudden, unexpected, or violent death. It can be very difficult to cope with, and you may experience flashbacks, nightmares, and intrusive thoughts about the death. I would certainly recommend counselling for this.
Types of grief - in conclusion
These are just a few of the many different types of grief. I have seen these, but there are many more.
If you are grieving, it is important to allow yourself to feel your emotions and to reach out for support from friends and family. You may want to work with a grief (bereavement) counsellor like me. It is quite common for members of a family to react differently and not be as supportive as you would like. There is no shame in seeking help, and it can make a big difference in your healing process.
Further reading about Grief Counselling here